Starting Over

"Sometimes love comes around and it knocks you down. Just get back up when it knocks you down" sang Keri Hilson in her popular single. I used to think it was a love song. But now it's just a song about pain, with seriously good advice. It's interesting how events in your life color the way you interpret everything . But for the INFJ, events like the break up of a three year relationship are more than just a passing disappointment. It means that I was unable to resolve an issue, failed to see signs, gave too little or too much. For the INFJ - who is supposed to be able to feel and read people - it is an enormous failure. So I withdraw within myself a little bit more, guarding that sacred self who is so delicate, so easily bruised.

To Those Whom I Have Tried To Love, Unsuccessfully

I don't believe in love,
I kept saying.
I don't believe in love.

Now there is no denying
Admiration, respect and trust,
No need to be creating
Love to confuse lust.

I don't believe in love,
Not the love for mom and sis.
No, that comes from above.

So just say what you mean
I admire, I respect, I trust.
But there's only one thing,

I love you.